Friday, January 9, 2015

The Broken Ceramic Plate Meant Good




The Broken Ceramic Plate Meant Good
By Dennis Onuigbo Email: simple14all@gmail.com

I woke up this morning of 8th January, 2015 in Darmaga, Bogor  and decided to prepare my breakfast before going for lectures. As I was washing my cooking pots and plates, one of my preferred ceramic plate fell down and chattered into pieces. As I gazed at the pieces I thought of different things.

Part of my thought as I gazed at the pieces included:
1.      I will buy a new one.
2.      The new one must be better than the old one.
3.      The new one may not necessarily be very expensive because;
4.      Every new thing becomes old and fades with time.
5.      If the old one has not fallen and chattered my thoughts to get something new and better will remain submerged.
6.      I also thought of the cost implication of losing the old plate.
7.      Well, the cost of losing the old plate is the sacrifice of getting something new and better.
8.      The situation will lead me into discovery, research or different experience from my status quo.

What Lessons derivable?
Sometimes I ask why are some continents more developed that the others? Why are some countries developing at faster rate with better standards of living and technology than the others? Why are some people healthier, wealthier, brighter than others even in the same environment.

Part one: Those who are better.
1.      I think it is because those who are better have moved one step or more away from their status quo and have gathered more and better experiences in their quest to replace their broken plate with a better one. Whenever we lose or lack anything that makes our daily life easier, a need or gap is created. Those who are better identifies that need or gap and makes effort to fill the gap or satisfy that need. In the process of trying filling the gap or satisfy the need, he or she is exposed to different experiences which may have been hidden before he or she identified the need. Using our broken plate example, before now I have not thought of changing my plate. The thought came when I broke the old one this morning.
To illustrate
I could remember I bought a set of the plate around Rp. 10,000. Because I want to replace the plate I went to the market and I discovered I could buy “ two sets” of “better designed” high quality (better quality) ceramic plates at the same price of Rp. 10,000. I may sell one set of the new plate at Rp. 10,000 since its better than the old one and become Rp. 10,000 richer than when I had the old plate.

2.      If you don’t identify a gap and make effort to solve it, you will remain in the relegation zone. You will rise up in the table of better life because you acted on your needs wisely.

3.       Think of it in all aspect of your life. If you do not see a need, break your old ceramic plate and think of how to get a better one.  You are better equipped when you identify an obstructing gap around you and try to fix it. Be ready to sacrifice your old things for better ones.

Well, I do not know if you got this little illustration. Think of it again. Does it really make sense or necessary for me to write about my broken ceramic plate? Who knows if someone may grab a point from my writing it and what if I had not written it?

Thanks for reading. Please remember to leave a comment or hit like if you want.

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

3 types of Girls not to Marry or be friend.


When I shared this post in 2012 on facebook I really didn’t figure much out of it. Now I had to go through again and edited a few things I see that every one both male and female needs this message.
Seriously, certain types of women must be avoided, if you want to be happy in life before and after marriage. Doing this will save you time, energy and money. These women are categorized into three viz: Liars, wasters and a lazy woman.

1.       LIARS;
These kind of women are so eloquent, intelligent and sometimes charming. You will never realize that such a woman is telling you lies. She convinces and concocts tales that never happened just to impress you. Whenever you ask her a serious question, she always diverts the question or lie about it. If you discover she was lying about an issue, she will defend the lie with another then later she confesses to you that it was a lie. And because you love her that much you keep on forgiving her all the time. Never allow a chronic liar to be your first place she will ruin you.

2.       A WASTER;
She is careless when it comes to spending. She is like a chain-smoker such that She is addicted to buying whatever looks good whether she has the money or not. She buys almost everything on credit and is always paying debts! Never satisfied, she continues to look for new clothes or jewelry to buy without paying the previous debts. She compares herself with other successful and
classy ladies and tries her very best to be like them even if it cripples her financially. Her idea of success is how large her wardrobe is. She finds it difficult to resist the temptation of a nice dress, shoes, phones, hairstyle etc.  Due to this addiction, she can resolve to go out with any man who can pay up her debts, if you can’t she will dump you for a richer guy.

3.     A LAZY WOMAN;
One quick mark of a Lazy woman is that she always procrastinates. Even though She is not physically challenged in any way, she is totally laid back. She hates to lift her hand to handle household chores; she prefers hiring someone to do her chores. She throws herself to men who will love to rescue her and impress her because she detests any sort of hand work, with this one you can be sure that she may not achieve much or support your life. Don’t become her guardian angel in
an attempt to win her love. She will let you get very close to her because she desperately needs you to “slave” for her. She is not the right woman for you just leave her alone and look for your type.

Lessons:
1.       For the MEN → Hope now you know the type of woman you have and the single and searching dudes never date ladies of such characters.
2.       For the LADIES → Never be of that category and if you’re think of adjusting. Respect you man and be proud of him.
Wish you Good luck. leave a comment if  you wish.