Dream 12.3.15: Patience and a good mindset are extra-ordinary virtues

by Dennis Onuigbo

I felt so happy and accomplished when i woke up this morning. I smiled and thanked God in my usual way. Trully, patience and a good mindset are extra-ordinary virtues.

In the dream, it was my cousin (name withheld) that broke into my family house with an AK47 riffle. He was trembling and serious. He requested my mum to go and lay flat on the ground as he point the gun at me. My mum quickly obeyed. It was just the three of us in the scene. I gently asked him what do you need. He was younger than i am and a drop out from senior school. He quickly replied my laptop, cash, phones and fast! "Ok" i said to him." Calm down I will not shout or disobey you, you are my brother, I will give you everything you want so that you will be happy again"  I told him but I don't have enough cash. He said fast! I started gathering all I have, laptop, phones, I took some cloths i bought newly and asked "do you like this one" he said yes put it in that bag. I did same for shoes until the bag became so full I requested him to help me to zip the bag. He was more relaxed now because i was patience and responding positively. He drop the gun by the side and came around to help zip the bag, I can remember exactly why it was so difficult to zip. I was moved as i looked at my mum still lying down on the floor, so I gently collected the gun dropped by my side and told him let me drop it away from us so that it will not harm any of us. As i moved with the gun effortlessly he came towards me and asked me to give him back the gun. I gave it back to him. He told me at this point that he realised that if he took all these things or may be become rich, nobody will accept his gift again ( norm in Mgbowo) and people will look at him like a bad person anywhere he goes and he would never have peace again as he would be dodging some people or hiding everyday. That he likes my kind of life, even though I don't have much I give as if am so rich and act as if I have another store of wealth hidden outside the surface of the earth. He abandoned the bag and left with his gun. My mum stood up and was very happy.

May God grant us a peaceful and contrite spirit in all our endeavours.

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Hmm; Always Assume You Know.

By Bridget Eze

Let M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ share a philosophy of mine that has been helping M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ all the way.

Tho very lenghty buh interesting aswell.‪#‎Happyreading‬
ALWAYS ASSUME YOU KNOW!!!
It all started when I was in SS1 (ADSS maitama abuja) we had our usual young catholic student (YCS) fellowship meeting in school der and a reverend father was invited to give us a "talk"
While he (the reverend father) was advising us as students he told us to "always assume we know either academically or socially. That assuming will make us strive to know that particular thing we already professed we know, and also, so as not to fall our hands to that person we already told we know,thereby strive/struggle to know that(it could be anything) ...‪#‎u‬ dig???
After the fellowship I went back to class to tell my other friends who were not catholics and didn't attend the fellowship what our FATHER said and D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ I will someday give it a trial.
So I did indeed....
When I was in SS2,there was this student in SS1 (same school)she met M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ to help her with her mathematics assignment and D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ she was gonna submit it before break time. I looked at the work it was all this pythagoras theorem.
And I was like OMG! M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ dah hate maths talk more of pythagoras theorem. But still I collected it told her I knew it (assumed I knew it) then told her to go and come back in 30mins time.
Immediately I rushed to one maths guru in my class den and asked him to teach M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ ,he did and I knew/understood it asap. So wen she came back for it I was now balanced to explain the work to her no shaking.
Why???
Simply because I assumed!!!
And it continued like that in secondary school till I finished.
Another experience was when I entered higher institution and came back for break. There was this reigning hair style den I told my younger sis D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ I use to make it for my friends in school and D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ I was gonna make it for her ....meanyl I know have neva made that particular hair style for anybody, although I could make hair then sha but neva made that style I told my sis.
Because I was very inquisitive and had already assumed I know and didn't want to fall my hand,I decided to go to a salon and make D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ exact style on my hair.
While they were making it for M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ I knew how to make the style from the stylist and came back and practicalised it on my sis hair and it was perfect.
Samething happened in the case of eyelash,nails and many other things I learnt.
All thanks to that reverend father tho have forgotten his name......atleast apart from academics, he made M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ know more like making perfect hair,nails,lashes and many oda things.
Also
Thanks to my sis them,my practical practicalizations (lol) D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ made M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ perfect wen it has to do with hair,nails e.t.c
Now I can confidently say assuming made M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ have perfect hand-work/skill.
You too can ASSUME yoU̶̲̥̅̊ know anything kwa!!!

It Takes Nothing to be Humble

By Bridget Eze

Someone jes annoyed M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ dis morning..
I mean not up to 40mins ago
Ok!
Lemme Narrate what happened..
I rushed out of the office dis mrng to use the ATM because what I wanted doing was urgent.
On getting der I saw a very long queue,asked for the last person and took my stand.
After the long wait,this POLICE woman jes bounced in and came to the front straight up.
I was jes watching her to know wat she will do.
It was now remaining like two people before my turn,one man behind M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ stupidly said "ah officer waiting too,dah she would have used the ATM without queing,because she has sometin doing in the office" ‪#‎Imagine‬ talk
I was like how will a normal nigerian voice out such useless statement.
But I simply replied the man D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥,she has to wait for her turn no arguement,cos datz the normal tin to do. Besides M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ too have work doing in the office b4 I came out. He kept quite.
Note: if that police woman had pleaded to withdraw b4 us or M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ der,I or we would have allowed her.
Instead she foolishly was forming she can't beg.
So I told the girl in my front to withdraw and after her it will now be my turn and I will withdraw and won't allow that woman.
D girls turn d police woman draged with her,she didn't succeed.(Imagine police officer disgracing hersef)
Twas now my turn one mumu man abi na guy sef dunno,now came and said I must allow the officer to withdraw(wit command).....I told him I won't.
The woman started shouting at M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ ,I shouted back at her telling her how she couldn't even respect her uniform and office and do the right thing.
The foolish guy joined her too.
Twas only dis three pipo (police woman,d foolish guy,and the man behind M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ )that were supporting themselves. ‪#‎i‬ didn't care about the rubbish dey wia saying anyways...
The rest pipo der were not in support (I mean they were for M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ ,because I was right).
Ok!
The foolish man pushed M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ from behind to leave the ATM for the police woman wit full force,I almost fell down,my wallet,ATM and fone fell and I picked it up.
I didn't know wat came over M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ ....with the anger D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ I was right and standing for it and ol D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥
I turned and gave the mumu man/guy a dirty side SLAP.
Surprised???
Yes!!!
Because he deserved it from M̶̲̅ε̲....and too people D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ were for M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ gathered,D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥s even y I had d guts to slap him bcos I know people der wouldn't have allowed him do anytin to M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ ...ThankGod!
‪#‎First‬ time ever I slapped a guy in pulic or even engage mysef in ATM arguement, U̶̲̥̅̊ can imagine what prompted M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ to so today.
Finally,I finished my transaction,d bank security guy came to meet M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ d foolish guy is a MOPOL guy, and dah was y he was supporting the POLICE woman.
FADAAA!!!
Dah was wen I knew he was a mopol....I said to mysef,So I slaped a mopol man.
"Make e be,e dun happen be say e dun happen."
Anyways served him ryt.‪#‎he‬ will neva forget dis day.

I decided to post this because there are most pipo out der,D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇†̥̥ will do wat dis police woman/mopol man did knowing fully well is wrong...
Have met reputable men and women queing for their turn in different places,cos they know is the right tin to do,sometimes dey get to plea wen they are in a haste.
It takes nothing to be humble.
Thanks!

11.2.15 dream. The brutality of man

On the 11.2.15 as I woke up I thought of writing the experience I had in my dream but I lots of activities took my time so am writing this now after having another dream on the 12.2.15. I want to however in this section write about the experience of 11.2.15 first. It was in a Nigerian setting again and I found myself in an environment where bad boys had some freedom to take advantage of the weak. In a group of about ten surrounding a boy screaming for help they kept smashing his head with their foot and rejoicing at his cry. I went a bit closer to see if I can identify some of this boys but to not avail. When they are through with him and all dismissed one of they came towards me with smiles saying "today's meeting was fun". I remembered I have met him once and we have played ps2 together somewhere I cant remember vividly. Shortly the police arrived and started arresting everyone around the scene. I allowed myself to be arrested with the aim of telling exactly what I saw and at least point that boy that met me so that he can lead the police to his colleagues. Things in the dream didn't appear too clearly as I write now but I could remember that I tried to call the attention of the police on duty but they have refused to hear me out. It was in my struggle to air my view that I woke up.

As I thought of the dream, I knew alot of things must have gone wrong and I prayed over the dream.

Lessons derivable from the above:

1. May be God wanted to show that good people are most times imprisoned unjustly and blindly

2. There is possibility that the bad boy was freed because the police didn't want to actually stop the crime but are more interested in the money friends and family will pay them for bailing. That also may inform their action of arresting alot of people and not hearing them out.

3. In the process of doing good or trying to do good there are challenges or obstacles or fears but be steadfast and persistent. I know in my struggle one person (ordinary, police, parent, friend, another good person) will hear me out and act. This is because you do not know the next victim (may be your son or daughter or parent) and another good person will do like me. And crime will reduce. On the other hand, if we keep quiet and nothing, then we create a good environment for crimes or evil.

4. Police do your job well. Money and material wealth is vanity. Infact, as much as I know ill-gotten wealth don't last and are faced with problems that takes it. At last you will wish to be poor, good and healthy.

Please add experiences or lessons if you want. Thanks and God bless you as we make the world a better place for all.

Start Believing

After meditating and scrutinizing my thoughts this morning I ended up with this line below.

I never knew how great my God has been until I started believing.

I guess that I may not be able to explain that line in details but apply it to your self in which ever way you understand it and enjoy the bliss that goes with it. That's all.

I may refer you to listen to this link am promoting
"new manifestation magic". May be that may further enhance your understanding of what faith can do. 

The Broken Ceramic Plate Meant Good

The Broken Ceramic Plate Meant Good

By Dennis Onuigbo Email: simple14all@gmail.com

I woke up this morning of 8^th January, 2015 in Darmaga, Bogor  and decided to prepare my breakfast before going for lectures. As I was washing my cooking pots and plates, one of my preferred ceramic plate fell down and chattered into pieces. As I gazed at the pieces I thought of different things.

Part of my thought as I gazed at the pieces included:

1.      I will buy a new one.

2.      The new one must be better than the old one.

3.      The new one may not necessarily be very expensive because;

4.      Every new thing becomes old and fades with time.

5.      If the old one has not fallen and chattered my thoughts to get something new and better will remain submerged.

6.      I also thought of the cost implication of losing the old plate.

7.      Well, the cost of losing the old plate is the sacrifice of getting something new and better.

8.      The situation will lead me into discovery, research or different experience from my status quo.

What Lessons derivable?

Sometimes I ask why are some continents more developed that the others? Why are some countries developing at faster rate with better standards of living and technology than the others? Why are some people healthier, wealthier, brighter than others even in the same environment.

Part one: Those who are better.

1.      I think it is because those who are better have moved one step or more away from their status quo and have gathered more and better experiences in their quest to replace their broken plate with a better one. Whenever we lose or lack anything that makes our daily life easier, a need or gap is created. Those who are better identifies that need or gap and makes effort to fill the gap or satisfy that need. In the process of trying filling the gap or satisfy the need, he or she is exposed to different experiences which may have been hidden before he or she identified the need. Using our broken plate example, before now I have not thought of changing my plate. The thought came when I broke the old one this morning.

To illustrate

I could remember I bought a set of the plate around Rp. 10,000. Because I want to replace the plate I went to the market and I discovered I could buy “ two sets” of “better designed” high quality (better quality) ceramic plates at the same price of Rp. 10,000. I may sell one set of the new plate at Rp. 10,000 since its better than the old one and become Rp. 10,000 richer than when I had the old plate.

2.      If you don’t identify a gap and make effort to solve it, you will remain in the relegation zone. You will rise up in the table of better life because you acted on your needs wisely.

3.       Think of it in all aspect of your life. If you do not see a need, break your old ceramic plate and think of how to get a better one.  You are better equipped when you identify an obstructing gap around you and try to fix it. Be ready to sacrifice your old things for better ones.

Well, I do not know if you got this little illustration. Think of it again. Does it really make sense or necessary for me to write about my broken ceramic plate? Who knows if someone may grab a point from my writing it and what if I had not written it?

Thanks for reading. Please remember to leave a comment or hit like if you want.

3 types of Girls not to Marry or be friend.

When I shared this post in 2012 on facebook I really didn’t figure much out of it. Now I had to go through again and edited a few things I see that every one both male and female needs this message.

Seriously, certain types of women must be avoided, if you want to be happy in life before and after marriage. Doing this will save you time, energy and money. These women are categorized into three viz: Liars, wasters and a lazy woman.

1.       LIARS;

These kind of women are so eloquent, intelligent and sometimes charming. You will never realize that such a woman is telling you lies. She convinces and concocts tales that never happened just to impress you. Whenever you ask her a serious question, she always diverts the question or lie about it. If you discover she was lying about an issue, she will defend the lie with another then later she confesses to you that it was a lie. And because you love her that much you keep on forgiving her all the time. Never allow a chronic liar to be your first place she will ruin you.

2.       A WASTER;

She is careless when it comes to spending. She is like a chain-smoker such that She is addicted to buying whatever looks good whether she has the money or not. She buys almost everything on credit and is always paying debts! Never satisfied, she continues to look for new clothes or jewelry to buy without paying the previous debts. She compares herself with other successful and
classy ladies and tries her very best to be like them even if it cripples her financially. Her idea of success is how large her wardrobe is. She finds it difficult to resist the temptation of a nice dress, shoes, phones, hairstyle etc.  Due to this addiction, she can resolve to go out with any man who can pay up her debts, if you can’t she will dump you for a richer guy.

3.     A LAZY WOMAN;

One quick mark of a Lazy woman is that she always procrastinates. Even though She is not physically challenged in any way, she is totally laid back. She hates to lift her hand to handle household chores; she prefers hiring someone to do her chores. She throws herself to men who will love to rescue her and impress her because she detests any sort of hand work, with this one you can be sure that she may not achieve much or support your life. Don’t become her guardian angel in
an attempt to win her love. She will let you get very close to her because she desperately needs you to “slave” for her. She is not the right woman for you just leave her alone and look for your type.

Lessons:

1.       For the MEN → Hope now you know the type of woman you have and the single and searching dudes never date ladies of such characters.

2.       For the LADIES → Never be of that category and if you’re think of adjusting. Respect you man and be proud of him.

Wish you Good luck. leave a comment if  you wish.

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